I have often referred to the word sex as the biggest three letter word in the entire English language. It is all around us, none of us can get here without it and the human family would not continue were it not for it. Yet so many of us act as though “it” doesn’t exist.
Schools have taken to giving out condoms; children are continuing to experiment with their sexuality in ever increasing and some very dangerous ways. Hip hop culture is now filled with overtly sexual messages being ingested by children and young adults who are victimized daily as a result of a culture that has lost its soul. And yet some parents remain unable to have frank discussions with our children about it.
Meanwhile in the so called mainstream, there is a fascination with celebrities, and the salacious details of their sexual escapades. What they did and who they did it with becomes headline grabbing news. In a world filled with hunger, poverty, war and strife, who Tiger Woods had sex with becomes the topic of every discussion.
It’s been said that women use sex to get love, while men will use love to get sex. Let’s look at this statement. Why would a young woman of today, in light of sexually transmitted diseases, unwanted pregnancies, and failed relationships, risk herself and future? The answer is love. The blogosphere is filled with sites that deal with love and sex and their relationship.
When we speak of love it is a word whose definitions seems to be constantly changing. Minister Farrakhan once said that most of what is called love in this world is in fact need, under an alias called love. In a community filled with single family homes, among a people chasing things, there is not enough real love. Our children venture out of homes looking for something their soul is yearning for, sadly as parents many of us did not receive what we are now unable to give. The Bible tells us that love is many things, has many forms, and comes in all shapes, sizes and colors. We are told that love is kind and love is patient, to name a few. Many songs have been sung, many poems written and even more said about this seemingly elusive love. We all know within our human hearts that what the world needs now more than ever is love, in all her definitions, languages, and forms.
For the purpose of this post, we examine the way love is used in relationships. Men who themselves have not known love or having misunderstood the love they knew, encounter women, who find themselves often looking for love in all the wrong places. It was mentioned to me that at a recent event, the incomparable Susan Taylor remarked “hurt people, hurt people.” While this statement appears simple, it is very profound.
How can we who have never known love, turn around and give love? No wonder most of our relationships are devoid of substance; our young people now meet on MySpace and Facebook, while texting and sexting are now acceptable forms of communication.
Meanwhile, nature’s forces within us draw us into close contact with each other, only long enough to satisfy nature’s call. From these encounters come offspring who are themselves now a part of a cycle. Young girls with no fathers, hoping for a love that seems to have eluded their mothers. These would be daddy’s little girls, but in the absence of a true father, comes a hurt young boy, trying to figure out how to become the man.
Bro Richard
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